The next step…any ideas?

I’ve spent the morning reading some great blogs (anyone read The Happy Hausfrau? Puts a smile on my face every week!) and reading many of your blogs/posts. Some days I’m very productive…whether its for my kids, myself or propelling myself forward on this path toward divorce. Other days I want to just sip coffee and gain knowledge and insight from all of you. I look at this time as time well spent, focusing on myself and how I can be the best version of me. I am fortunate I still can do this right now. I know what’s coming and I know it’s going to be hard. So the days when I sit here and read or write are precious to me.

Alot of things are precious to me now…

Quality time spent with my kids, whether its an outing to dinner or a mini vacation to reconnect.
Quality time with my good friends just spending an hour over coffee or a nice lunch.
The abilty to get in the car and drive long distances without worrying about the price of gas.
The ability to buy that expensive face cream or get my hair cut and colored at the salon.

I know the money is going to get very tight when we sign on the dotted line. I’m aware that there will be less time spent with family and friends in the future when I’m (hopefully) working and earning an income.

For all of this and more I am truly grateful. But looking to the future, I can’t help but be nervous and scared. One minute I’m charging forth looking for jobs online and the next I’m putting a halt on all of it, telling myself to enjoy the short time I have left. Instructing myself to use my free time wisely to get my affairs in order.

Does anyone have advice for this? Charge forth or slow down?

I’ve been a stay-at-home mom for so long that I’m not sure what direction to take. I’ve been volunteering steadily for the few years to get back in the swing of things, but I’m pretty sure I hide behind volunteering because I can come and go as I please when something comes up with the girls schedules. I’ve been thinking about going back to school but have this fear that I’ll spend the only years I may have some alimony studying to gain employment only to find out most companies would rather hire younger folks. I worry ALOT about retirement, and if you’ve read my older posts you can understand why. I’d love to hear some of your stories about how you handled these issues…



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